Alex is now lying about everything. Little things like if he brushed his teeth, shampooed his hair, or did his homework; he is asked if he did them, and he says replies “yes mommy I finished everything” then I go see if the bottles have been moved and they are in the same spot; I check the backpack and journal is not done. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to punish him for lying because I read that punishing for lying will just cause more lying out of fear. So I am stuck! I guess it is back to trying to get a hold of the therapist again.
He was being seen by three counselors, two at school, and one private. I called one of the school therapists today and she informed me he refused to see her the last time she went to pick him up from class. I don’t know what to do; I don’t even know who my little boy is anymore. Before his father died he was such a normal and no problem kid. I’m stressed and I don’t know what to do.
You child may be morning the lost of his dad.
ReplyDeleteDoes he understand death and dying from a Christian perspective? It really takes kids a while to bond with a therapist and it also depends on the mental state of the therapist. He may not like her on a personal level.
What has your reaction been to the death? Have you said anything negative about dad in his presence? Things like, things are now hard finacially since dad is gone?
How does he react if you say lets watch one of dads favorite movie on friday. Then watch it together. Go visit dads family, he may need a male figure from the family to take him in...like dads brother or dad.
Did he have an opportunity to say good-bye or cry? Ask him if he would like to visit the grave site on Saturday. You may need to let him say good-bye inn his own way.
Let him go to the store and pick the flowers. Then when you go to the site let him say whatever he likes. Tell him we can always come back and visit but that love for dad is still inside his heart.
No advice here, friend...only that I feel for you and I hope he's doing better now. I really don't know what to advice on situations like these.
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